November & December 2009

January 17th, 2010 No Comments »

Hello to my long lost blog - well not really lost, but certainly neglected.  It’s hard to believe it’s been over 2 months since I posted anything.  I don’t even know where to begin!  I guess I’ll start where I left off.

 

My absence began with another shamanically induced journey in mid-November.  This one was different from any other experience I’ve had, and yet it was similar in some aspects.  This journey was enhanced by a small, chocolate heart affectionately referred to as chocoma.  The sweet, little treat mushroomI ingested that evening was a combination of chocolate, mushrooms, and ayahuasca.  Not what you typically find in a candy dish.  What I found interesting was the progression of the journey which began as a typical mushroom experience and later morphed into more of an ayahuasca experience. 

 

heart_clip_art_02What I learned from my Shaman is the mushrooms soften and ease you into the ayahuasca experience, and the chocolate prevents your journey from becoming an exclusively inward one.  I found this to be true on both counts.  The message and experience I gained that evening was one of love, bonding, and a personal commitment to enhancing certain relationships in my life.

 

cabo-11-09-022The next morning I left on a physical journey with Russ to Cabo San Lucas.  I had been to Cabo once before, but I forgot just how beautiful it is there.  We shared a wonderful week in a combination of ways; exploring, relaxing, and indulging at the beach.  We also went on a journey one night and ended up Nowhere.  It was a wonderfully romantic trip, and we were blessed with perfectly beautiful weather.

 

cabo-11-09-008One day we had just arrived and started lounging at the beach, soaking up some sunshine and our first cocktails, when the bar began a game of name that tune and announced the winner would receive a bucket of beer.  Being the music lover that I am, this is my game and I know it.  I looked at Russ and said excitedly, “Honey, I’m winning you a bucket of beer!”  Russ had hardly finished his first beer from the first bucket he had ordered (before the game began) by the time I won a second cabo-11-09-020bucket for him.  He had his work cut out for him that day as I don’t care for beer.  I tell this story not to say the highlight of the trip was a day of drinking at the beach (although we were in Cabo), but rather as an example of clear intent and the fact that I am indeed a winner.  ;-)

 

The following week was Thanksgiving, which brought out of town family and nat2friends to the house.  Thanksgiving with the Petrones and the Hopkins is a grand affair with lots of love and appreciation to go around.  Before dinner we listened to a tribute of Kind and Generous by Natalie Merchant.  It is the perfect Thanksgiving theme song, and those of us who took the lyrics to heart connected on a different level.  Everyone else was like, “Hey, can we eat yet?”

 

During December I gave two speeches and did another photo shoot with Tony.  Since my last post I gave one more speech in January, finished all of the toastmastersrequirements to earn my Advanced Leader Bronze award, and was elected as President of my Toastmasters club.  The shoot with Tony was the Victorian & Lace shoot.  Tony and I also did another shoot last weekend, the Red, Purple, & Black shoot.  Updating the photos in my online modeling portfolios is continuing to slowly creep up higher on my agenda, and I expect to post some new photos sometime within the next week.

 

cimg2514Of course the end of December also brought some holiday parties, gatherings, and festivities.  Once I finished my shopping (and my speeches), I was able to relax and enjoy the season.  Russ and I spent a week in St. Louis with my family, which was wonderful.  My nieces are the most adorable things ever!  They are so fun to play with, and Santa was really good to me too.

 

San Diego Properties
San Diego Properties

It’s hard to believe January is already half over.  It’s just been whizzing by, but at least I’m caught up with this blog now.  I haven’t been slacking off on my writing though.  In fact, I’ve been working rather diligently on a new blog I created for Petrone Properties called Houses for Sale in San Diego.  I’ve been reading, researching, and writing about issues and programs related to the San Diego real estate market.  I also decided to earn a real estate license, and I’m halfway through my first red-carpetcourse.  No wonder the days have been flying by.  I’ve been packing them full of goals.  As I said in my last speech, “Goals are your golden ticket to success – as long as you take action to achieve them.  Your golden ticket is waiting for you!”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Meeting The Man of My Dreams

November 10th, 2009 6 Comments »

Last month I finally met the man of my dreams!  For those of you who know The Success Principlesme personally, I’d better explain.  Actually, he is the man I dream of being as influential and inspirational as.  About 6 months ago, I somehow stumbled upon The Success Principles by Jack Canfield.  What a phenomenal book!  It can help you discover your life purpose, vision, and goals.  Although it’s over 400 pages long, it is divided into short chapters that mostly range from 5-10 pages.  Each chapter introduces and explains one of the 64 success principles with amazing stories to illustrate real life examples of the principles in action. 

 

Ten years ago before I even knew who Jack was, I used to read inspirational Chicken Soup for the Soul by Jack Canfieldstories from the Chicken Soup for the Soul books to my students.  There are so many reasons I admire and respect Jack.  He graduated from Harvard and chose to teach high school students in Chicago’s inner city.  He then went on a quest to discover how to inspire his students who lacked motivation.  Jack has shared the knowledge and wisdom he has gained through the numerous books he has written and the seminars he presents.  This good-hearted and humble man has uplifted the minds and hearts of millions through his achievement and desire to help people. 

 

On April 30, 2009, I was reading Harv Eker’s book, Secrets of the Millionaire Jack CanfieldMind.  Part of becoming successful is expressing gratitude.  Harv suggested writing a letter of thanks to the person who inspires you the most.  I chose Jack Canfield.  In my letter, I tell Jack the reasons why I admire and honor him.  At the end of my letter I wrote, “One of my goals is to inspire other people, which is why I have so much respect and admiration for you.  Thank you for inspiring and uplifting humankind.  I look forward to meeting you!”

 

When I wrote my letter to Jack, I didn’t know when I would meet him, but I knew that someday I would.  Well, last month my someday arrived!  Jack was one of the guest speakers at Principia, an annual week long conference hosted 11by Psi Seminars.  The speakers are never announced in advance so I was amazingly delighted; okay downright giddy, when I found out on Jack would be speaking on Tuesday at Principia.  I arrived for both of his sessions with plenty of time to ensure I would be sitting front row center.  His sessions were endearing, heart-warming, and extremely powerful.  In his closing he said the highlights for our week at Principia were still to come.

 

After his presentations, Jack said he would have two hours to sign autographs Jack Canfieldand pose for photographs.  Unfortunately, the two hours was cut to ten minutes due to a change with his flight schedule.  Also, his books had not arrived as scheduled.  Fortunately for me though, I happened to have my copy of The Success Principles with me and a copy of Jack Canfield’s Key to Living the Law of Attraction.  While Jack was signing my book I said to him, “Jack, you were my highlight!”  Out of all the speakers scheduled that week, he was the one I had been looking forward to the most.  Jack’s smile was priceless.  Touching the heart of a man who has inspired millions felt incredible.

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway

November 9th, 2009 No Comments »

I knew this book would be a great one based upon the title alone, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.  Although this book 0345487427was published in 1987, Susan Jeffers delivers a timeless message.  Fear can control you, or you can choose to control your fear.  Your fear can only control you if you let it.  The way to make a fear disappear is not to avoid it, but rather to face and overcome it.  During the process, you’ll gain confidence and become a more powerful person.  If you choose to ignore it, the fear will continually resurface as an obstacle in your life until you confront it.

 

Nowhere has this been more evident in my own life than in my decision to join Toastmasters and give speeches.   I had to take public speaking twice in college.  First, I took a class at the community college.  It was so embarrassing, but at least I was finished with that requirement.  Then, I was absolutely mortified to discover my university would not accept the course I had already taken for transfer credit.  That was just not right.

 

Further along in my college career, a professor asked me if I imagescahit3871had ever heard of Toastmasters.  When I found out what it was I thought, “Oh, that’s definitely not for me.  No, thank you.  I’ve already suffered through that experience twice.  Who would want to go do that during their free time just for fun?”

 

Then a few years later another new friend asked me if I had ever heard of Toastmasters.  “Yes, I have and I’m definitely not interested!”   I wondered, “Why do people keep talking to a31_amazon_120me about Toastmasters?”  Then I remembered my friend Natalie from high school who had offered to pay for me to take assertiveness training classes.  I know she was just teasing me, but she had identified a need long ago that other people were continuing to see in me.  Strange

 

Five years ago another friend read something I had written and was really astounded by the quality.  Although she was book-cover-logocomplimenting my writing, I read between the lines and also surmised that based upon my speech, she never would have guessed I could write so well.  Granted, my speaking style is significantly more informal, but still it was something to consider.

 

Last year while I was creating 4 goals for a 90 day game I was about to begin playing, I realized what I had to do.  I imagescafwyaliwas suggesting lame, easy goals, and my coach was calling me out on it.  Although she didn’t know exactly what my goals should be, she did seem to have an innate challenge meter that measured whether a goal was worthy or not.  My goal to join Toastmasters was accepted immediately without hesitation or questioning.

 

imagescacdopmgNow I was not terribly excited about this goal as it truly scared me and yet something within told me it was time to face this fear.  My first 3 speeches were pretty nerve wracking, but somehow during the 4th one it became a little bit easier.  By the 5th speech I was even having fun.  As I gained more experience and confidence, I focused on the message I had to share with my audience rather than being preoccupied with myself. 

 

jump1Now 10 speeches later, I have earned a Competent Communicator Award and a Competent Leader Award.  I have mentored new members and been elected the Vice President of Membership.  At conferences, I volunteer to be the leader and share my group’s responses.  I no longer sit back in silence afraid to speak.  I have replaced my fear with power.  I am no longer weak.

 

 

 

 

Will I Ever Find the Time?

November 5th, 2009 1 Comment »

The PBS Logo

The PBS Logo

I don’t often watch TV or videos, but recently a PBS video appeared in my life.  I suppose it arrived in a timely manner as I have not been managing my time very effectively lately.  Although in reality we all have the same amount of time (24 hours per day), I often feel as though I have, or should have, more time than other people since I am not tethered down by a regular 9 to 5. 

 

 

clockI guess I’m right in that perhaps I have more free time than people with evil j-o-b-s.  Yet at the end of the day, week, or month, I haven’t always accomplished all that I set out to achieve.  At first, the reason was because I had an unrealistic number of goals.  But after narrowing my focus and reducing my list, things still were left on the list.  I was neglecting writing, one of the things I love doing the most!  Why wasn’t I making time in my daily life for my top passion?

 

I had relapsed into overachiever mode and was prioritizing “shoulds”.  I was time-1working non-stop without taking any breaks to enjoy life.  Thankfully I attracted this video, Time Management from the Inside Out by Julie Morgenstern, into my life.  It began with a self assessment based on 4 questions.

 

 

1.  I spend way too much time… (working non-stop)

2.  I wish I had more time for… (writing and being creative)

3.  I procrastinate whenever I… (get frustrated, depressed, or don’t want to         do something)

4.  If I had a 25th hour, I would… (invest it most effectively by incorporating breaks into my day or doing something I love)

 

appleMy answers revealed to me I had squeezed the juice out of life and was left with an empty rind without ever having enjoyed any of the fruit.  The truth is I don’t need a 25th hour, but the answer to that question and question #2 reveal what is imperative for you to work into your daily life.

 

The other invaluable tip I learned was I used to write down a list of goals x30290331without any plan for when I would invest time working on each goal.  I noticed this especially with my mastermind group goals.  My groups meet every 2-3 weeks.  I would set goals for the period, go back to my daily routine, and then have an ut, oh! moment a couple of days before the next meeting when I realized I still had a lot of unaccomplished goals. 

 

After watching the video, I went back to my list of goals and my calendar and x11542105determined which days I would work on which goals.  It seems so obvious to me now that I need to not only consider what I want to achieve, but also when I plan to make it happen.  Incorporating time for my top passion and down time has improved my attitude and perception of time.  For some reason, I feel like I have more time even though I know I still have the same 24 hours.

 

If you or someone you know struggles with time management, it may be worth your while to invest 60 minutes determining the culprit(s) and figuring out what smiley-starchanges you can make to be happier and more effectively manage your time.  And since it’s a PBS video, chances are you may be able to find your answers for free by borrowing the video from your local library.  There are no better investments, than the ones you make in yourself!       

Journey in Malibu

September 22nd, 2009 12 Comments »

Frank Lloyd Wright House

Frank Lloyd Wright House

 

I went on another journey in Malibu the weekend before last at an amazing property owned by the Wright family.  Frank never finished this house, but it looks like the family is continuing to build upon his vision.

 

View of Malibu

View of Malibu

The view from the house overlooks the Pacific Ocean, and down below you can see the pier in Malibu.  It is an amazing place to watch the sunset.  This last time the sky was a bit hazy, and we spent much of the evening above the clouds.

 

 

The Medicine Wheel

The Medicine Wheel

During the dark hallows of the night, well beyond dusk a friend and I sat atop the hill by the medicine wheel.  We sat quietly in the darkness gazing upon the ever glowing and changing lights in the distant sky.  We witnessed the clouds as they ascended the mountaintops and surrounded us with a damp chill.  They enveloped us slowly and then passed on beyond us.

 

 

 

Waterfall & Pond

Waterfall & Pond

But I must digress back to the beginning.  My journey began with the admiration of the beauty of nature as I sat by the tranquil pond.  As I appreciated the soothing sound of the falling water, watching the flow of the water reminded me of the importance of embracing the flow of life.  When water and life are still, stagnancy results because little or nothing changes.  The beauty resides in going with the flow, embracing change, and trusting your course.

 

 

 

ayahuasca-017From my resting place near the pond, I shifted my attention to the majestic rock formations and the gorgeous setting sun.  The rocks embodied their pride as they stood strong, tall, and solid.  The sun shimmered with brilliant hues of orange and red as she shimmied down away behind the rocks and mountains.

 

The Womb Rock

The Womb Rock

I wandered toward the womb rock, where you can lay in the indentation on the top of this rock.  When you assume the fetal position, you discover you fit perfectly inside of the rock’s womb.  As she surrounds and protects you, she provides an amazing sensation of safety and warmth.  The last time I was there as I lay inside the rock I thought how strange it would be to be the womb rather than within the womb.

 

 

The Lizard's Throne

The Lizard's Throne

However, I didn’t make it all the way over to the womb rock until the next morning because I became distracted by the lizard’s throne.  I was drawn to the little wooden throne, but as I approached it I noticed the tiniest lizard sitting there.  Not wanting to frighten him, I stopped and began watching him.  I told him I wouldn’t hurt him and to my surprise he not only hung around, but he also moved closer to me.

 

 

The Trust Throne

The Trust Throne

Some other friends wandered over a few at a time.  As they did I mentioned this little lizard that was teaching me about trust.  He even let one woman sit on the throne with him.  I never did sit on the lizard throne, but in hindsight the lesson in trust was far more valuable.   

 

 

I imagine next time I return I will revisit the trust throne and perhaps even deserve to sit there.  Nature speaks, but do we listen?  Yes, I got the messages this time around.